Life. A huge part of life is figuring out what the heck to do with it! How do you decide what career path to take when you are in your early 20's?
When I think about what I should become 'when I grow up', I always ask myself if I am going to enjoy that particular job when I am 50 years old...then I do the math and consider that 50 is nearly 30 years away...at this point I take into account that I haven't even been alive for 30 years...so I pause to reflect on how much I have changed in my 20-something years...then I realize that something that may seem interesting and intriguing now, could quite possibly bore me in 2 months. There are too many options, and time's-a-tickin'...I need to figure this out! Here is where I am right now:
Currently I am attending university, working towards getting a psychology major and a sociology minor so I can become a counselor someday. I am considering being a marriage counselor, but then I realized that I enjoy and seem extremely comfortable talking and learning about sex, so now I am thinking about specializing in sex therapy. However I love carpentry, tools, plastering and creating with my hands...which is like chalk and cheese when being compared to counseling. Another thing I am interested in is acting; I would love to act, host a radio show, or be a news anchor. I also have a passion for expressing my thoughts and opinions through writing poems, blogging, or even just simply scribbling down a thought in the notebook that I always have under my bed. Something else that I take great interest in is animals -I would love to work in a zoo, or save puppies from puppy mills, or try to make a difference in cutting down the amount of animal abuse that exists in our unexplainable and cruel world. I also have this hunger to open my own little cafe. I would love to add my own special touch to the place and make it a unique and comfortable place where people can do what I love to do most: meet up, chat and laugh over one of those cups of tea that makes one say, "Oh, now that's a good cup-a-tea!".
WHAT IN THE *BEEP* AM I SUPPOSED TO CHOOSE!?...Can I do it all?
So, my point is to show you where my head is...and that is all over the place. Every week there is a new idea of something I would like to do 'for the rest of my life'. So, I wonder...if my mind is changing so much in such a short amount of time, then how the the hell am I going to stay interested in whatever it is I choose to be when I grow up? How do I make the right choice so I don't ever have to say, "If I had my time back I would have.....". Hahahaha, ohhhh Life.
Thursday, October 9, 2008
Thursday, September 18, 2008
I Want a Dog, But I Have a Cat
Well friends...it has been a LONG time. I guess that over the past several months I decided that for some reason, the topics I wished to share were not all that funny, intellectual, substantial, witty...you know where I'm going. I am 21...there isn't anything special about me, I'm pretty much your typical 21 year old young woman. What consumes my thoughts are boys, clothes, where the next party spot will be, my friends, getting my ass through school, shoes, purses, dreams for the future (regardless of how realistic those dreams may be), where I will be in 10 years, what I will become, what my wedding will be like, whether or not I will have children. We have all been there, and if I have younger readers then you should know what I mean, and if not, you will.
What I have on my mind tonight is "change". Some people will say "Change is a good thing." Yes, that may be correct in some situations. Change tends to help people open their minds to new, different and risky experiences in life. Change will help us grow. Change will take us to each and every new chapter in our lives. Change will make you smile, cry, scared and therefore could make us stronger individuals. Change can do a lot of things that seemingly ends with a positive result, even though you may only see this in hindsight. However, I just read a book called "The Mastery of Love", and it talks about change, in the sense of a man or a woman in a relationship trying to change their partner. The author makes a point by saying something along the lines of 'Why would you have a cat and keep a cat, if what you really want is a dog?' This got me thinking...
Too often in relationships, one or both parties are happy with their partner, but.....But what if he/she thought this way, instead of that way? What if he/she didn't do this, and did that instead? Wouldn't they be so much better if he/she had the same beliefs, morals, standards, expectations, goals as me? People in relationships seem to always have a list of things that they want their partner to be or become with proper "training". There will always be some incompatibility in a relationship, that is to be expected, but...where do we draw the line? When do we gain the ability and comfort in being able to say "Ok, I am responsible for me. You are responsible for you. I will love you for who you are, and who you have become through your past experiences. I do not have the authority to try to change who you are, or how you act, or what you believe in, or the things you like/dislike, or what you like/dislike to do...etc." If we are finding ourselves with a cat when we really want a dog, we should give the cat to someone who would appreciate the cat for what it is, and continue our search for that darn dog that seems to be extremely difficult to find. Right? Well what I want to figure out is, when and how do you distinguish whether you have yourself a cat or a dog...all while keeping in mind that there are always differences between people in relationships, and no one is perfect??? When do you decide what differences are worth accepting, and what differences should be the deciding factor in moving on without that person by your side anymore?
In my young mind, these questions rack my brain. I am at an age where I could have found Mr. Right, or will find him very soon. "Forever and Always" is very realistic for the near future. I am just struggling with what is or is not worth accpeting, since I am not supposed to want to change someone, nor should I feel that I have the authority or power to do so.
I am going to leave this post right here, because that is how far I have gotten in these thoughts and questions....what do you think?
What I have on my mind tonight is "change". Some people will say "Change is a good thing." Yes, that may be correct in some situations. Change tends to help people open their minds to new, different and risky experiences in life. Change will help us grow. Change will take us to each and every new chapter in our lives. Change will make you smile, cry, scared and therefore could make us stronger individuals. Change can do a lot of things that seemingly ends with a positive result, even though you may only see this in hindsight. However, I just read a book called "The Mastery of Love", and it talks about change, in the sense of a man or a woman in a relationship trying to change their partner. The author makes a point by saying something along the lines of 'Why would you have a cat and keep a cat, if what you really want is a dog?' This got me thinking...
Too often in relationships, one or both parties are happy with their partner, but.....But what if he/she thought this way, instead of that way? What if he/she didn't do this, and did that instead? Wouldn't they be so much better if he/she had the same beliefs, morals, standards, expectations, goals as me? People in relationships seem to always have a list of things that they want their partner to be or become with proper "training". There will always be some incompatibility in a relationship, that is to be expected, but...where do we draw the line? When do we gain the ability and comfort in being able to say "Ok, I am responsible for me. You are responsible for you. I will love you for who you are, and who you have become through your past experiences. I do not have the authority to try to change who you are, or how you act, or what you believe in, or the things you like/dislike, or what you like/dislike to do...etc." If we are finding ourselves with a cat when we really want a dog, we should give the cat to someone who would appreciate the cat for what it is, and continue our search for that darn dog that seems to be extremely difficult to find. Right? Well what I want to figure out is, when and how do you distinguish whether you have yourself a cat or a dog...all while keeping in mind that there are always differences between people in relationships, and no one is perfect??? When do you decide what differences are worth accepting, and what differences should be the deciding factor in moving on without that person by your side anymore?
In my young mind, these questions rack my brain. I am at an age where I could have found Mr. Right, or will find him very soon. "Forever and Always" is very realistic for the near future. I am just struggling with what is or is not worth accpeting, since I am not supposed to want to change someone, nor should I feel that I have the authority or power to do so.
I am going to leave this post right here, because that is how far I have gotten in these thoughts and questions....what do you think?
Monday, January 7, 2008
Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!
Well, my friends...it's all over. The year 2007 is now a thing in the past, and I hope you all can reflect on it with a smile on your faces! I sure can! At first, the year started off to be a bit of a bumpy ride for myself. I experienced a break-up from a guy that I had spent nearly 2 years with, and lived with for almost half of that time...so, I didn't think I would like 2007 all that much. It was comparable to when you get out of bed, and stub your toe before you had time to do anything else, and you figure the rest of your day is just going to be agony. However, my year turned out to be everything but, it was GREAT! I learned so much about myself and have never been so comfortable with who I am. I met new people, made new friends (that have become the best group of friends a girl could ask for), I started my first semester of college, and the list goes on....BIG year!
My Christmas holidays were an absolute blast too. It was very hectic with an endless list of get-togethers and parties to attend. Every night that I would decide to stay low-key would turn into a crazy and/or fun night out. No complaints. However, I am excited to get back to the books so I can allow my body and liver some healing time, ahhahahaa!
As for the New Year, that too started out to be a little on the rocky side too. About 15 minutes after 2008 began, there was a crash of broken glass at Dooley's. Subsequently, we all got kicked out and had to find a new place to celebrate the new year. It turned out to be an enjoyable night though, well for me it was. No complaints here either. BUT, we all know of at least a handful of people that will say it was the crappiest New Year's ever...there's always next year, so don't lose hope!
Anyway, I hope everyone had a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year! May 2008 bring you nothing but joy and happiness!
Take care!!!
My Christmas holidays were an absolute blast too. It was very hectic with an endless list of get-togethers and parties to attend. Every night that I would decide to stay low-key would turn into a crazy and/or fun night out. No complaints. However, I am excited to get back to the books so I can allow my body and liver some healing time, ahhahahaa!
As for the New Year, that too started out to be a little on the rocky side too. About 15 minutes after 2008 began, there was a crash of broken glass at Dooley's. Subsequently, we all got kicked out and had to find a new place to celebrate the new year. It turned out to be an enjoyable night though, well for me it was. No complaints here either. BUT, we all know of at least a handful of people that will say it was the crappiest New Year's ever...there's always next year, so don't lose hope!
Anyway, I hope everyone had a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year! May 2008 bring you nothing but joy and happiness!
Take care!!!
