Here I am, a single gal in my twenties and getting asked out on numerous dates...here I am, still a single gal. What is the problem here?
Dating should be fun, I mean, it's nice to get to know someone new and it's nice to be taken out. However, the guys who ask me, all seem too nice. You know what I mean when I say that too...they're TOO available, too 'there', and it seems that they'd do just about anything for me. For some reason, that is a big turnoff in my eyes. Now get me a guy who isn't showing any interest at all, and I want him. Find me someone who has slept with 1/2 of Newfoundland, and I want to be his one and only girl. Find me a guy who has no respect for women, and I want to be the one to change that. Find someone who could be considered "too old" for me, and I want to bring out the inner child in him. Welcome to my "love life", or obviously, lack there of.
The thing is, girls have to seem classy, innocent, and be "take home to mom" material. Therefore, us girls will go for the guy who's momma couldn't have raised something like that, because he's an @$$hole! This way, we sort of feel as though our inner rebel has made a tiny appearance...and that feels nice. It's comparable to when your parents say that you shouldn't do something, and that makes you want to do it even more (so you do). Subsequently, in both situations, you end up crying because you made a big mistake...and is most cases will make the same mistake again and again....and in my case, again.
I want to like the nice guys, I want to feel really special to that someone special, and like most girls, I want to get rid of this magnet that only attracts the jerks or unavailable guys. It's a vicious cycle that has yet to be figured out. So I will end on this note; a few quotes that I know all too well:
"Nice guys finish last..."
"You always want what you can't have, and when you have them you don't want them..."
"Every girl wants to be that one girl who can change that guy..."
...I'm sure many of you can relate. Oh, and if you got over it, tell me how!!! Hahaha!
Take care everyone!!!
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9 comments:
What's up with that? Sounds insane. I think I'll go after a REALLY poorly paid job that has shitty working conditions in the hopes that I'll be the one employee to change the employer's mind about fair working conditions. I think I can find true happiness and prosperity in slugging my heart and soul in slave labour. Once they see how hard I'm working, they'll see the error in their ways.
Steve
Yah, I hear ya Uncle Steve...It is insane.
Well melissa...What do I want to say about this...Hmmm? I think everyone wants a bad boy in some form or another. I think your bad boy is at a different level than lets say my bad boy...for example. First off, YOU WILL NEVER BE THE ONE TO CHANGE SOMEONE. I think every relationship is a lesson...you learn something about urself and take that with you to the next relationship until you know you are ready to be with a person. I had to be with all those other guys to be able to learn what it was that I had to bring to a marriage. The last guy was definetly the good guy, to a fault!!!, but thankfully I learned that I couldn't be with him for reasons I will not get into on your blog. But if I hadn't been with him I don't think I would have a successful marriage. Take advantage of some of the good guys, you may learn alot more about urself and who knows...that good guy may only be a cover up of the bad boy inside.
Loves ya
Andrea
wow, this is ME in a nutshell! I can relate to you 100%. its because the nice guys dont make us feel special, or at least the "special" that we want to be. We know that if another pretty girl comes along, they'd do the same thing hoping to get them. we want the assholes because when they like you, they REALLY like you, not just because its in their nature. it means were THAT special to them that they change completely. And i think what it is, is when you finally do change them or learn to find some guy in the middle of the nice guys and assholes, that is what true love is.
i think it a good thing u r single. even at twenty u seem very immature and not mentally develloped enough to being in a serious relationship. no offense. just stick to goin out with the rest of the kids during recess for now. there will be lots of time to date when u become an adult.
Wow, I guess I should be open to negative feedback since I am blogging about my life. OK, well here is my reply to your comment:
First of all, did you read "Miscommunication"? I know that I never truly got my point across in the way that I had hoped with this post, so I wrote one to follow it, to clarify some things. Anyway, ...are you an ex?...or a nice guy that I turned down? Or have you experienced being shut down by someone because you are "too nice"? Regardless, I really seem to have triggered something in you today, and I think that is GREAT! That is what blogging is all about. I am totally open to your opinion, but your comment does not bother me (since I think that your labels for me and your little insulting line was intended to be hurtful). Actually, it is one of my favorite comments because I didn't think that what I had to say would mean so much to someone. So, I thank you. And, hopefully if/when you read "Miscommunication" you will understand the point I was trying to get across, but failed to do so, in this particular post.
...and I'm glad I'm single too! ;)
When I read the comment from "anonymous" yesterday, I was a little put off. Anyone who can make a comment like "you are immature and not mentally developed" followed by "no offense" is, well... a little immature and not mentally developed.
You handled yourself well, Melissa. Good on you.
Perhaps "anonymous" will do a little growing up him/herself and have the balls not to hide behind "anonymous". Oh, and perhaps learn how to freaking spell in the meantime.
Thank You! :)
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